Ep. 8 - Q&A: Anxious attachment tips, core wounds in relationships, and fair fighting rules

You asked, we answered! This episode features your burning questions about how to build harmonious long-term relationships. We start out with tips for developing secure attachment, including ways to soothe yourself and a partner during an anxious attachment flare. We also explore ways to get unstuck when one partner’s core wounds get triggered regularly, including fair fighting rules and communication tools that foster a peaceful relationship.

Key Takeaways

00:00 - Intro

01:52 - How to support yourself and people you are dating with anxious attachment

28:38 - Core wounds in relationships

42:15 - Fair fighting tools for harmonious, mutually supportive relationships

Resources and links

Mindful Self-Compassion

Inner Bonding

Getting the Love you Want, a book by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt.

Possible Fair Fighting Rules to consider for your relationship

I-Statements blog post

Couples Dialogue, a communication tool for better understanding and empathizing with your partner, from Imago Works

4 Horsemen Antidotes, strategies for addressing negative communication patterns in relationships, from the Gottman Institute

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