Dear Listener, are you exhausted by the endless swipe-and-scroll cycle of dating apps? Do you wish potential matches could get to know the real you—not just a few photos and a character-limited bio? Well then, I’d like you to meet my friend, Date-Me Doc.
Date-Me Docs are standalone documents (typically housed in Google Docs or Notion) that live outside dating apps and give you space to share who you truly are, what you're looking for, and why you'd make a great partner.
But here's the twist: we believe creating a Date-Me Doc is valuable even if you never share it with anyone. Why? Because the process forces you to get crystal clear on what you want—and as we like to say, love favors the clear-sighted. That clarity will serve you whether you're swiping on Hinge, chatting someone up at a coffee shop, or asking friends to set you up.
In this episode, we walk you through our recommended structure, how to use photos effectively, why vulnerability attracts (not repels!) the right people, and how to share your Date-Me Doc with cuties you meet in real life (Josh even role-plays it for you!).
If you're craving a slower, more intentional approach to dating—one focused on depth over dopamine—this episode is for you.
Key Takeaways
00:00 Introduction and Overview
01:21 What is a Date-Me Doc?
05:21 Why should you create a Date-Me doc?
15:45 How to write a Date-Me Doc
22:22 Crafting Your Unique 'Me' Section 26:19 Describing Your Ideal Partner in the 'You' Section
29:29 Creating the 'We' Section and Final Tips
Resources and links
Tired of Dating Apps, Some Turn to ‘Date-Me Docs’ - NY Times
Date-Me Doc Template - coming soon!
Ep. 15 - Online Dating 102: Perfecting Your Profile & Photos
Ep. 2 - What to look for in a long-term partner
Downloadable Guide: What to look for in a long-term partner
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