In Person & Online Queer Couples Therapy in the San Francisco Bay Area and throughout California
Supporting LGBTQ+ couples to build stronger, more loving relationships
Those early days together were magical, weren't they? The excitement, the connection, the feeling of being truly seen and understood. But now, as you navigate the unique challenges of being a queer couple and the pressures of daily life, it can be incredibly challenging to maintain that sense of closeness and harmony. That makes sense: it IS hard.
Many queer couples seek therapy when they find themselves having the same fights over and over. Sound familiar?
You and your partner are juggling demanding careers, family responsibilities, and the lingering effects of discrimination or marginalization. This leaves little time for nurturing your relationship, resulting in feelings of disconnection, frustration, and neglect.
You find yourselves caught in the same arguments about intimacy, finances, household responsibilities, or even navigating your identities within the relationship. The stress and negativity can make it feel like you're constantly on edge, longing to return to the deep connection you once enjoyed.
How to know if queer couples therapy can help you.
Do any of these feel relatable?
You feel like you're walking on eggshells, afraid of triggering your partner.
You and your partner have intense arguments that leave you both hurt and regretting your words.
Your sex life has diminished; intimacy feels like a distant memory.
Conversations frequently devolve into blame, defensiveness, and complaints.
You’re under constant stress and feel like you can’t turn to your partner for support.
If these scenarios sound familiar, know your experiences are valid and common among many LGBTQIA+ couples. While deeply rewarding, building a happy relationship is easily one of humans' most challenging feats. Add to that the weight of surviving a homophobic, transphobic, and otherwise discriminatory society, and we’re talking about a near-Herculean task.
That’s why it’s important to get support.
Remember, prioritizing your relationship is not selfish. In fact, fostering a healthy partnership can greatly enhance your personal well-being, not to mention make you a better partner and community member.
Queer couples therapy can help you reconnect.
Imagine a life where you and your partner:
communicate gently and lovingly.
rekindle your sexual spark.
strengthen your emotional bond.
feel supported 100%.
model a resilient, healthy relationship to those around you.
Queer couples therapy can help you navigate life's challenges as a united team.
Our queer-affirming Relationship Therapists in the San Francisco Bay Area are here to help.
At the Relationship Center, our team is dedicated to supporting gay, lesbian, transgender, non-monogamous, asexual, kinky, and otherwise queer couples, triads, and polycules. We feel deeply fulfilled by helping LGBTQ+ couples rediscover the joy and connection in their relationships.
Many of our LGBTQ-affirming clinicians are queer-identified themselves. Fueled by our mission to create a safe space for queer couples, we integrate our lived experiences and training in LGBTQ-affirming care with evidence-based approaches to help you and your partner fall in love all over again.
We are passionate about helping you and your partner to become experts in soothing one another, especially in moments of stress. By exploring your attachment styles, love languages, the impact of societal oppression, and past experiences, you'll find new ways to communicate with love and understanding.
Through queer relationship counseling, you'll learn neuroscience-informed communication skills that will help you diffuse conflict.
Our team at the Relationship Center aims to help you reach new levels of closeness and mutual support.
How queer couples therapy works.
Therapy sessions are typically 50 minutes long and address your relationship challenges. Here’s what you can expect as therapy progresses:
1. Creating a Safe Space: Your therapist will establish a welcoming environment where you and your partner feel comfortable sharing your struggles.
2. Understanding Your Dynamic: Your therapist will gain a comprehensive understanding of your relationship through attentive listening and thoughtful questions.
3. Addressing Immediate Concerns: Your therapist will help diffuse the pressing issues and difficult emotions contributing to frequent conflicts.
4. Building Communication Skills: You’ll learn evidence-based communication techniques for resolving conflicts smoothly.
5. Deepening Understanding: Discover each other's attachment styles, temperaments, love languages, and past experiences to enhance your mutual support and love.
6. Learning Through Action: Because talk isn’t enough, your therapist will incorporate creative, experiential practices to reinforce your new skills and understanding.
7. Achieving Your Goals: As therapy progresses, you and your partner will grow closer as you rebuild trust and reignite your romantic connection.
Research shows that couples therapy can significantly improve communication and relationship satisfaction. It helps you release resentments and negative emotions and reconnect with the love you initially shared.
Ready for queer relationship counseling in the San Francisco Bay Area? Let’s get started.
Ready to reconnect and strengthen your relationship? Fill out an application and request a free 30-minute consultation.
Our Care Coordinator will discuss your relationship struggles and determine how our team of queer-affirming therapists can best support your goals. If we’re a good fit, they’ll help you choose a therapist and schedule your first session.
We’re here to guide you through this challenging time and help you emerge as a stronger, more connected couple.